WHAT JESUS WOULD ‘TELL US TO ALWAYS TELL THEM’…
WHAT JESUS WOULD TELL US: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOUR SPOUSE AND YOUR MARRIAGE
Key Scripture
Mark 10:9 – "Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
Introduction
We live in a culture that often treats marriage as temporary, conditional, and disposable. Jesus taught something radically different. He viewed marriage as a sacred covenant established by God, nurtured through faith, strengthened by grace, and sustained through commitment.
Believing in your spouse does not mean ignoring flaws. Believing in your marriage does not mean pretending difficulties do not exist. It means choosing faith over fear, hope over despair, and commitment over convenience.
Jesus would remind us that marriages do not survive because two perfect people find each other. Marriages thrive because two imperfect people continually choose one another.
I. Jesus Would Say: Remember Why You Chose Each Other
Scripture
Revelation 2:4-5 – "You have forsaken the love you had at first."
Teaching Points
Every marriage begins with hope.
Over time, disappointments can overshadow blessings.
Jesus often called people to remember where they started.
Application
Ask:
What first attracted me to my spouse?
What qualities did I admire?
What dreams did we share?
Believing in your marriage often begins by remembering God's original gift.
Key Truth
People grow when someone believes in them.
II. Jesus Would Say: See Your Spouse Through Grace
Scripture
Matthew 7:3-5
Teaching Points
We often magnify faults and minimize strengths.
Jesus consistently saw potential in imperfect people.
Peter was impulsive.
Thomas doubted.
The disciples frequently failed.
Yet Jesus never stopped believing in them.
Application
Instead of asking:
"What is wrong with my spouse?"
Ask:
"What is God still doing in my spouse?"
Key Truth
Grace sees what someone can become, not merely what they are today.
III. Jesus Would Say: Speak Life Into One Another
Scripture
Proverbs 18:21
Teaching Points
Words shape relationships.
Criticism tears down.
Encouragement builds up.
Jesus consistently spoke hope, identity, and purpose into people.
Examples:
"Follow Me."
"Your faith has made you well."
"Feed My sheep."
Application
Practice:
Daily gratitude.
Verbal appreciation.
Public honor.
Private encouragement.
Key Truth
Your spouse should hear more encouragement from you than from anyone else.
IV. Jesus Would Say: Forgive as You Have Been Forgiven
Scripture
Matthew 18:21-22
Colossians 3:13
Teaching Points
Every marriage eventually experiences:
Misunderstandings
Hurt feelings
Disappointment
Broken expectations
The question is not whether failure will happen.
The question is whether forgiveness will follow.
Jesus understood that relationships cannot survive without grace.
Application
Forgiveness is:
Not forgetting
Not excusing
Not denying
Forgiveness is releasing the right to revenge and choosing restoration.
Key Truth
Healthy marriages are not built by perfect people but by forgiving people.
V. Jesus Would Say: Fight for Your Marriage, Not Against Each Other
Scripture
Ecclesiastes 4:12
Teaching Points
The spouse is never the enemy.
The real enemies are:
Pride
Selfishness
Isolation
Bitterness
Unforgiveness
Satan's strategy is often division.
God's strategy is unity.
Application
When conflict arises:
Do not ask:
"How do I win?"
Ask:
"How do we win?"
Key Truth
The strongest marriages are not those without conflict but those that learn to fight together against the problem.
VI. Jesus Would Say: Never Stop Choosing Love
Scripture
John 13:34
Teaching Points
Love is not merely an emotion.
Love is a daily decision.
Jesus demonstrated love through:
Sacrifice
Service
Presence
Commitment
Love is most powerful when it becomes a choice rather than merely a feeling.
Application
Choose daily:
Patience
Kindness
Listening
Understanding
Service
Key Truth
Strong marriages are built one faithful choice at a time.
VII. Jesus Would Say: Trust That God Is Still Working
Scripture
Philippians 1:6
Teaching Points
Many couples become discouraged because growth takes time.
Jesus spent three years shaping the disciples.
Transformation is a process.
God is still:
Teaching
Healing
Maturing
Refining
both husband and wife.
Application
Pray:
"Lord, help me see my spouse through Your eyes."
Key Truth
Never give up on someone God has not given up on.
Discussion Questions
What first caused you to believe in your spouse?
Which of these teachings challenges you the most?
Where is God asking you to show more grace?
What encouraging words does your spouse need to hear?
What area of your marriage needs renewed hope today?
Closing Challenge
Jesus would remind us that marriage is not merely a legal agreement or emotional arrangement. It is a covenant where two people continually choose faith, grace, forgiveness, and love.
When others give up, believers are called to persevere.
When disappointment appears, believers are called to hope.
When weakness is revealed, believers are called to extend grace.
And when the journey becomes difficult, Jesus would say:
"Believe in what God is building. Believe in the person standing beside you. Believe that My grace is greater than your struggles. And never stop fighting for the marriage I entrusted to your care
